To tell Brian would be the right decision to me. He and josh are my friends and that why i asked them to be in my wedding. Nicole is Amy's pretty much only girlfriend. The other girls in the wedding are her family and my two sisters. We would have never though that Amy and josh would do this. I was shocked when I found out. I am really hoping that Amy and josh handle it themselves. I haven't told Brian because he WILL flip out. There's not really a question about that 1. He has told me before that if someone did touch Amy he wouldn't be able to hold back. He will go to jail.amy and Brian live together. There is a danger involved with telling him. Thats y josh and Amy won't say anything. Now Amy won't talk to Nicole because Nicole confronted her and now Amy feels attacked. Amy told Nicole that Brian needs to be handled differently than other people. He is an alcoholic. He is drunk pretty much everynight and does smell like boos in the morning. I am actually scared to tell him but them cheating behind his back can not continue. But it is. If Amy and josh call it off it will always be a big lie.
This thread has gotten long and a lot of people probably think I am POS for not saying anything. But thanks for all the replies! This is just a sick and twisted situation. Might say eff all these so called friends and just focus on me and my girl!
If you consider a person with these characteristics a friend, then you have a serious problem right from the start.
If you knew all this and chose to get involved anyway, then honestly I don't know what you were thinking.
My advice would have been, stay out of it. Knowing this stuff now I'm even more convinced that would have been the right thing. We rarely get the full picture and often get a very misleading one.
I think your recent conclusion is the right one. You need new friends.
As to what this girl needs to tell the guy she's living with, all she should do is tell him "I'm leaving," preferably after already removing all her stuff from their place.
In any case, the only concrete advise I can give you is to rethink who is going to be in your wedding party, because I think you probably have to write off all of these. That woud have eventually happened anyway, but now they'll blame you for it.