Can't get over this FEAR

[bleedinblue]

One of my first vehicles was a old taco.It had bad rear shocks, and eventually bald rear tires lol.
I hydroplaned in that thing passing a semi on the interstate, spun out and ended up in the median.I barely kept it from going into oncoming traffic.
A decade later I still hate driving a cage in the rain, even tho I take better care of my tires and matured some.
You will allways have that memory.It just takes alot of time to put it in the past.
You didnt do anything wrong.Just think of it as a reason to start watching the mirrors more at lights.
After reading your story Iv definitely realized one of my weaknesses, I watch the red light and glance at my mirrors, I should probably do it the opposite way more often

 

[FZ6R_Mike]

I have wrecked my quad climbing hills and racing quite a few times. Racing is a little different cause u got an adrenaline rush and a will to win the race so u kinda block the wreck out. Climbing the hill was a different story. It didn't scare me from riding but when I came to that part of the trail I would always take the long way just to avoid that hill. One day I was just tired of looking at that hill and just cowaring away from it, so I lined up and and popped the clutch and cruised up it like it was nothing. Fear is a mental blockage! Don't let fear control ur mind. Next time ur gearing up to go out just think how much fun ur gonna have at bike night or wherever u go. Don't let those negative thoughts in.

 

[Marthy]

You will be just fine. You didn't do anything wrong... just wrong place wrong time.

 

[leprecaun jon]

my best advice and the only way to concur that fear.... is to to face it.... just get out there and ride..... its the only way to get over it..... it isnt easy.... but it works

 

[Nastybutler]

my best advice and the only way to concur that fear.... is to to face it.... just get out there and ride..... its the only way to get over it..... it isnt easy.... but it works

I concur.

 

[leprecaun jon]

---^ i blame my spell check and dyslexia for not being able to use the proper word in there lol... but you get what i mean!

 

[Nastybutler]

Dyslexics untie!

 

[leem00]

Practice, practice, practice!I laid my Honda shadow down leaned over in a right hand corner doing 60 (loose gravel). 4 years removed I still get skittish on right hand corners that I don't know, even worse if they are blind corners. Some days it worse than others, some days I am invincible.

 

[kevin8198]

Well you said that you rode after getting a new bike and were fine. Then after the winter now the issue is coming up. Did anything change over the winter? Do you have new priorities or future possibilities that may be weighing in on this?
Are you going to have a bady Dakine? Because looking at you and your husband in those pics that baby would be CUTE!! :thumbup:

 

[va_bank]

I'm terrified when I ride now. I will ride for short distances and that's it. I've been riding for over 10 years and nothing has bothered me about riding until now. ???
I'm at a loss at how to get over this. I get real uneasy and shaky just sitting on my bike or even riding in the neighborhood.

Leave the bike alone for a while or take even shorter rides. If you meant to ride, you will miss it and eventually get over your fear. After the birth of my son, I walked away out of fear for 3 years and thought I was done for good. It came calling back and I returned with more confidence than before.

 

[DakinechicK]

Well you said that you rode after getting a new bike and were fine. Then after the winter now the issue is coming up. Did anything change over the winter? Do you have new priorities or future possibilities that may be weighing in on this?
Are you going to have a bady Dakine? Because looking at you and your husband in those pics that baby would be CUTE!! :thumbup:

Awwww thank you Kevin! But, I'm not knocked up yet. I'm planning on becoming a mommy but not right now, so I don't think that's it. I think what is strange is that I did ride all last summer and fall... put a few thousand miles on the bike and NOW I'm getting anxiety. It just doesn't make sense to me because I got right back up from that wreck and did a lot of riding. Maybe I've just had all winter to think about it and how bad it could have been...?? I don't know. I did turn 30 in Sept so maybe my attitude changed about life!! Nah...

Thanks for all the input guys and gals. It sucks to be intimidated about something you love SO much! I'm sure I'll get passed it... I just need to get out and ride instead of sitting here worrying about it. I'm sure I'll move on!

 

[kevin8198]

Awwww thank you Kevin! But, I'm not knocked up yet. I'm planning on becoming a mommy but not right now, so I don't think that's it. I think what is strange is that I did ride all last summer and fall... put a few thousand miles on the bike and NOW I'm getting anxiety. It just doesn't make sense to me because I got right back up from that wreck and did a lot of riding. Maybe I've just had all winter to think about it and how bad it could have been...?? I don't know. I did turn 30 in Sept so maybe my attitude changed about life!! Nah...

Thanks for all the input guys and gals. It sucks to be intimidated about something you love SO much! I'm sure I'll get passed it... I just need to get out and ride instead of sitting here worrying about it. I'm sure I'll move on!

Well just food for thought hope you can get out on that beautiful bike and enjoy riding it. Embrace the fear, ride safe and responsible and statistically you'll be alright! We want pics if you do ever decide to pop one out :thumbup:

 

[buzzbomb]

You know, it's OK if you don't want to ride anymore? You really don't HAVE to. Not for us, not for anyone. Not for yourself, even.

Facing one's fears is one thing. I used to ride horses a lot. I got thrown a lot. Yep, get up and do it again, or you'll be afraid of it. You know, I don't ride horses anymore? Not because I'm afraid of them, but because I lost interest. Been there, done that. I don't even miss it.

It's not a question of a gut-check. If you want it bad enough, you'll do it. If you don't, then, OK. Maybe you'll miss riding. Maybe, one day, you'll decide to try it again. Maybe you won't. The point is, if you simply don't want to ride anymore - then roll with it. If you do, REALLY want to continue riding? Then do it.

I think you know you've got best wishes from everyone here, whatever you choose.